Stuck to Strength: Getting Unstuck

Stuck to Strong Divorce Checklist: Do’s and Don’ts

DO’s ✅

• ·       Do allow yourself to feel your emotions. Acknowledge grief, anger, fear, and confusion without judgment.

• ·       Do seek support from trusted friends, family, or professionals. Don’t isolate yourself.

• ·       Do set small, realistic goals each day. Even tiny steps forward matter.

• ·       Do educate yourself about the divorce process. Knowledge reduces fear and uncertainty.

• ·       Do communicate clearly and calmly, especially with your ex. Use emails or written communication to keep things professional and documented.

• ·       Do prioritize your self-care-physical, emotional, and mental health. Rest, exercise, and eat well.

• ·       Do establish boundaries to protect your peace. Limit contact when necessary and avoid toxic interactions.

• ·       Do focus on what you can control, like your reactions and choices.

• ·       Do explore new hobbies or interests to rebuild your identity outside the marriage.

• ·       Do consider mediation or coaching to resolve conflicts without escalating tension.

• ·       Do join a supportive community or group (like a membership program) for ongoing guidance and connection.

DON’Ts ❌

• ·       Don’t make major decisions when you’re highly emotional or overwhelmed. Pause and consult trusted advisors.

• ·       Don’t isolate yourself or try to handle everything alone. Reaching out is a strength, not a weakness.

• ·       Don’t dwell on blame or past mistakes. Focus on your future and healing.

• ·       Don’t engage in negative or hostile communication with your ex. Avoid arguments, insults, or retaliations.

• ·       Don’t neglect your financial well-being-

• ·       track your expenses and understand your assets.

• ·       Don’t rush the process just to “get it over with.” Healing and clarity take time.

• ·       Don’t compare your journey to others’ divorces. Everyone’s path is unique.

• ·       Don’t ignore signs of depression or anxiety. Seek professional help if needed.

• ·       Don’t forget to prioritize your children’s emotional needs if you have them. Keep their best interests front and center.

• ·       Don’t lose sight of your personal values and goals. Use them as a compass to stay strong.